Well, look no further. Below you'll find the "Unlucky 13" -13 warning signs you're about to get dumped.

We surveyed a variety of experts to find the most common warning signs a person is about to get dumped --including psychologists, body language experts, graphologists, investigators and a divorce attorney. And here's what we found:

1. Is it romantic Armageddon, or just uncomfortable shoes?

Where the toes point, the heart follows. According to body language expert Patti Wood, MA, CSP, you should, "look at your sweetie's feet when you are out with other people." She says, "if they are pointed at you, great." If they're pointed at someone else, your partner may be looking to walk.

2. You're starting to feel like a telemarketer.

Is your sweetie anxious to end phone conversations right away? A person who knows he's going to end the relationship with you, but hasn't done so yet will be itching to get off the phone with you. If he is talking to you, but not adding anything to the conversation it's sign he is heading towards the finish line. He's probably just pacing himself.

3. He's no longer interested in sex, or worse, he has a new bag of tricks and a trapeze with the tags still on it.

A dramatic change in sexual behavior can mean two things:

a) He wants to avoid any situation where he might have to express emotion or attachment to you, or

b) He's getting it somewhere else.

4. He avoids talking about the future.

We're not just talking the general, garden-variety aversion that men have to discussing relationships. We're talking about a man who avoids having one of those "we have to talk" talks like it's a shot of the Plague. As for the future, when next Thursday seems like too much of a commitment, it could be because he's trying to extricate himself by Wednesday night.

5. He says, "I need some space" or "I think we should see other people."

According to psychologist Jesse Rabinowitz, PhD, people don't usually want to hurt someone else, so they use "exit strategies." By telling you he wants to see other people, he's not technically breaking up with you (so no big crying scene to endure) but he's given himself a way out. Of course, the second he gets a little distance, he's going to make a run for it.

6. If he's looking left, something's not right.

According to Bill Raduenz, private investigator, a person who looks up into the air and to the left when he speaks to you is "not being truthful." The look left is an indication we're using the "creative" side of our brains and a good indicator he's telling you a whopper.

7. He gives you that little pat on the back.

Watch out for this one. A person who gives you a hug while patting you on the back is indicating that they are uneasy. According to Raduenz, the "hand pat" on the back indicates someone is uncomfortable with what they're doing. The bigger the pat, the more discomfort they feel.

8. You don't like what you see in the mirror.

People mirror each other's body language when they are in love with similar gestures, voice volume, etc. If you're noticing the two of you are out of sync, you probably are.

9. You see the writing on the wall.

According to graphologist Karen Weinberg, QDE, a person who is thinking of ending a relationship will show clues in his handwriting. When writing the word "love" he may begin to drop down the letter "e." Another sign to watch for is if your partner diminishes the size of your name (sign of your importance to him.)

10. Every normal person should know which way the toilet paper goes...

If he's picking silly fights, or there's an unusual increase in emotional distance, you've got bad news.

According to Melvyn Frumkes, an attorney specializing in divorce, "a person who picks nonsensical arguments is trying to get the other person (you) to make the first move."

11. He keeps you waiting. And waiting. And waiting.

"Time is an important non-verbal communicator," says Wood. If he keeps you waiting, it's a sign his interest is waning, and a sign of disrespect.

This is true for dates as well. If he starts waiting until the very last minute to make date plans with you, it's likely he's lost interest, or he's hoping something better will come along and he's using you as a back-up.

12. He buys a personal pager, or a pre-paid cell phone.

This is bad news. Just about every private investigator in the book will tell you the pager purchase is a sign of impending heartbreak. Sure, it could be for work, but more likely, he's using it to get a head start on his post-you life. Beep Beep - Bye Bye.

13. He used to be a three-blue-shirts-and-four-pair-of-Chinos kind of guy, and suddenly he's obsessed with Armani.

According to Frumkes, a person who is about to leave (or is cheating) will take greater care with his appearance - updating his wardrobe, losing weight, working out and even changing cologne. If your sweetie looks like he just finished taping an episode of "A Makeover Story" - Those Chinos might not be the only dud he's looking to lose.

Want to know when you're most likely to get the axe? Most experts agree it's somewhere in the neighborhood of the first 3-5 months. So, stock up on tissues and Ben & Jerry's if you're heading into the danger zone.

Only time (and his shoes) will tell.

Article by Lisa Daily from •Enotalone•

You watch the red flags glare back at you, but gosh, he’s just so good-looking. So you dismiss them in favor of seeing where the relationship will go. The problem with turning a blind eye to those red flags of a relationship in the making is that eventually they’ll come back to haunt you. You could end up hurt and resentful, even though it was you who could have prevented it. The following are six red flags and warning signals of a doomed relationship. Plus: Are you over your ex?

To find that future partner who you can spend the rest of your life with, dating is necessary to separate the good from the bad, the complementary from the distracting. Anyone who has ever been on the dating scene knows that you’ll encounter just about every type of guy imaginable. But one thing’s for sure – the more you date, the more relationship red flags you’re bound to watch fly… and possibly ignore in your pursuit of love.

Unless you’re just in it for a fling or, ignoring red flags isn't the smartest move to make if you’re serious about finding that special someone. In the end, when you're asking why it all went wrong, it's usually those red flags that were your first indicator to move on.

Find out why the following relationship red flags should have you saying “Next!” when it comes to embarking on a new relationship.

1. He still lives at home

More and more adults are still living at home these days. So if it’s more common, should it really be considered a relationship red flag?

Yes! Men who still live at home are usually in no hurry to grow up, become independent or financially responsible. Are those the kind of traits you really want in a future partner?

The only time it might be acceptable for a man to still be living at home is if he’s taking care of aging parents or has temporarily fallen on hard times. In these cases, give him a temporary break.

2. He never invites you over

He’s quick to suggest hanging out at your place but never offers up his own digs.

This could clearly be a sign of concealment and should definitely be considered as a relationship red flag.

Maybe his home includes a family he’s not telling you about. Or maybe he's a hopeless slob whose home resembles the aftermaths of a hurricane.

Never inviting you over (or never wanting to be seen in public with you, not giving you contact info, giving you vague answers, etc.) could mean he’s cheating on someone else or it could simply mean that he’s embarrassed of something.

Whatever it is, you want a potential future partner to be open and honest with you about simple things.

3. He’s moving too quickly

Be aware of someone who moves at the speed of light when trying to win you over.

Moving too quickly is usually a sign that he’s uncomfortable being by himself or he’s looking for a woman to help solve his problems. Asking for intimacy or marriage too quickly or spilling loads of very personal information all point to desperation. Besides it being unattractive, clinginess and bad judgment are not traits you want a future partner to have.

Be especially wary if he has children he’s too quick to put you ahead of.

4. He constantly talks bad about an ex

He may not like his ex, but there’s no reason he should continue an ongoing verbal assault on her, no matter how sour the relationship went. Not only is he offering too much information, but it makes him look tacky, resentful and unwilling to take responsibility for his shortcomings in the relationship. Plus, if your relationship doesn’t work out, would you want him constantly talking bad about you later on?

Be aware of a guy who talks too freely about past relationships or exes in general, especially if it’s all negative. He may be dealing with a heavy load of unresolved anger.

5. Excessive Parental Attachment

It is one thing to love your mother and father, but it’s another thing to have an excessive relationship with them when you’re an adult. “Excessive” in these terms means “being a mama’s boy,” only having your parents as your friends, letting your parents influence you in every facet of your life, etc.

Besides, excessive parental attachment doesn’t bode well in a marriage because he’ll probably put them ahead of you, which will undoubtedly damage your relationship.

6. He’s fresh out of a relationship

Timing can be everything, but when you could potentially get involved in a rebound relationship, it may be time to move on. While rebound relationships occasionally work out for the best, it’s usually one of the relationship red flags to be very cautious of.

If you’ve been through a break-up, you know that it takes a long time to completely recover. Chances are if he’s fresh out of a relationship, he’s going through the recovery process, which leaves him little time to completely focus on you. He may also be using you to temporarily fill his loneliness, whether he realizes it or not.

 

If you do nothing else, at least take heed of these relationship red flags, no matter how great his other attributes may be. It could be the difference between inevitable heartache and happiness with another man who only flies with the color green.

By Emily Battaglia, Staff Writer
Article Taken from •Lifescript•

A friend of mine, let’s call her Gina, has been in a relationship with a man for over three years.  For most of that time she’s seems as though she’s been miserable. During this time, I’ve watched my friend who was once upbeat, outgoing and who always had a smile to share become withdrawn and solemn.  Gina does not have any children, is not married to this man and maintains her own residence and finances.  When we speak, she’ll tell me this man makes her unhappy and the relationship is going no where.  I’ll ask her why she stays and she answers “Our past was great.”  What I remember of her relationship is that she was giddy for the first six months of it.  This is quite normal, in that we typically do not notice an individual’s negative qualities during the initial “romantic phase” of a relationship.  After that, I started to hear more and more complaints about “Mr. Wonderful.”  In my observation, through the course of her relationship, her self-esteem has plummeted.

Ending a relationship is usually never easy because good, bad and everything in-between, it’s still a loss and losses hurts.  Most people are passive about ending unhealthy relationships hoping the other partner will call it quits, while others take a more active stance and initiate the end.  The difference between the two types of people is usually rooted in his/her childhood.  Children that were raised by nurturing, caring and loving parents are for the most part more secure in themselves as adults and find it easier to leave a bad relationship because they have less fears of being alone (but that’s another topic in itself).                             

Signs that it’s time to end a relationship…

* You have a feeling of continuous frustration about the relationship
  (E.g., your emotional needs are not being met)
* You’re finding more reasons to spend time apart
* You’re being physically abused
* You’re being emotionally abused
* You no longer have strong feelings about your partner but reminisce
   about the feelings you used to have
* You’ve changed your core values, beliefs and goals to accommodate
   your partner in hopes that your relationship will no longer be problematic
* You’ve made drastic changes in your appearance hoping your partner will
   find you more attractive
* You have a growing feeling of emptiness
* You’ve put extreme distance or totally cut off former close relationships you
   used to have with your other friends and/or family

How to make the final decision...

The most pragmatic way is to make a list with two columns.  One that lists the positive attributes of your relationship and one that lists the negative.  Next, itemize the good and bad parts of your relationship honestly.  Sometimes seeing a concrete list where one column is much longer than the other will help you see your situation more objectively hence making it easier to end a relationship that no longer brings you joy and fulfills your needs.  Relationships should add to your quality of life—not subtract from it.

Last edited 11/9/05
Article by •Christina Steinorth, M.A.,• M.A., M.F.T

Two weeks, two months, two years, or even 21 years (if the gossip about Goldie Hawn's separation from Kurt Russell is true) – there's no rhyme or reason to when couples split. But there are usually common reasons why they called it a day. Such as these:
                       
One of you cheats
           
If you really, truly love someone and are committed to your relationship, you do NOT sleep with someone else. End of story. Flirting and a quick snog aren't so harmful; you can usually work through that, but sex is a whole different, miserable story. It is an extremely rare relationship that survives infidelity, whether you knew about it or not.
                       
Everyone else's relationship seems better than yours
           
Are you looking at other couples in love and wishing you had what they have? Then listen to those alarm bells. He clearly isn't making you feel happy, special or loved. You probably aren't that mad about him, either, if you're honest. Quit while you're ahead. The longer you spend in a mediocre relationship, the less chance you have of finding yourself in the fantastic one you've always wanted.
                       
After all this time you're still not married            

If you haven't legged it up the aisle after six years or so (assuming you want to!) then you both need to ask really hard: why? Sally Night, 26, did. After ten years without a proposal (despite lots of discussion about it) and a lot of compromising on her behalf, she decided to leave her boyfriend earlier this year before making the mistake of marrying him. 'It was a really tough decision - I lost my home, my car, virtually all my belongings, as well as the financial security he provided. But I have never regretted it for a second. I feel alive again; I'm in control of my life. And I have a man loves me for who I am and is basically 100 times more suitable!' she says.

Sadly, it's not uncommon for couples who've been together for a long time to marry when they feel things are shaky, in the hope that the commitment will make them close again. A few months after the Big Day, they split for good. Sad, but true. If only they'd find the courage to simply end it in the first place.
                       
You're only with him because you want a boyfriend            

Yes, OK, I've mentioned this a few times before, but I can't stress how important it is not to damage your self-respect by making do with any old relationship. You deserve better. If you're with him just because you're afraid of being single, and are deliberately ignoring all the crap things about him, dump him, and go face those fears. I guarantee they're not half as scary as they seem.
                                   
These symptoms don't guarantee the end of your relationship, but they do suggest major problems; whether you want to work together to solve them is up to you two. And remember; it ain't over til it's over.

Article by Marged Richards

She squeaks when she blows her nose. He eats like a rabid pig. It's just not working out.

We've all spent some time stuck in a relationship we didn't want to be in because we didn't have the heart (or some other equipment) to end it. Maybe we don't want to hurt someone we've been close to, or worse, maybe it's clear right away we're dealing with a nut and we don't want to be the trigger for an economy-sized bottle of Prozac and a six-week stint at the Bendy Willow Psychiatric Center.

So what do you do when it's completely obvious you're just not meant to be together? You break up. Or, you try to break up, don't quite hit the mark, and end up sucked back into the awful relationship for round two, because you just couldn't make it stick.

Is there a way to make it permanent without causing permanent damage?

The key is to have a plan, a good plan.

Location, Location, Location.

It's really important to pick a good strategic breakup setting. The best places to have "the talk" are both public but fairly private, with a convenient escape route. The best location? Outside, walking at a park. It's crowded enough to ensure you won't have a big scene, but private enough your dumpee won't feel like he or she is naked at a funeral. Other agreeable breakup locales include restaurants (but not a favorite restaurant) or a walk around the block. The worst place to break up? At a party or work. The only thing worse than being dumped is being dumped in front of people you're going to have to see on a regular basis.

Timing Is Everything.

Another key to effective breakups is precise timing. Breaking up at a park gives both your dumpee and you the chance to leave once the deed is done. If you're ending the relationship at a restaurant, do it only after the check has come and you've paid for dinner. (And by the way, if you're about to dump someone, you should DEFINITELY be buying dinner.) There's nothing more horrifying than being dumped and then having to sit around making small talk for another 20 minutes while you're waiting for the check to come. (As in, "Hey Lula, what are you doing now that you don't have plans for tonight? Laundry?")

Happy Freaking Birthday.

Never break up with someone within two weeks of a major holiday or his/her birthday. Make that a month for Valentine's Day and Christmas. There's no faster entry to the Bitch/Bastard Hall of Fame than permanently destroying the holidays for your soon-to-be-ex. It's just not nice, and you don't want that what-goes-around-comes-around thing biting you in the ass when your turn as the dumpee rolls back around.

It's Not You, It's Me.

The first thing to remember is not to drag it out. The longer it takes, the worse it is for everybody involved. Whenever you end the relationship, be sure to make your reasons relevant only to you. Say, "This is not working for me." Stick with your basis and keep repeating yourself over and over if necessary. It's impossible for someone to argue with you about reasons that pertain only to you. If you end up getting sucked into a situation where you have to list grounds for wanting it over, you may find yourself in for an encore. If you say, "we fight too much" or "you don't seem happy" your partner may offer to change, taking all the air out of your break-up and landing you right back in the relationship.

Hire A Hit Man.

Worst-case scenario, you're too much of a weenie to breakup with your girl or guy yourself, you can always resort to the newest companion service to online dating. For a fee, letsbreakup.com will inform your wish-you-were-my-ex of the relationship's demise by phone, email or snail mail. Certainly not the most sensitive approach, but it gets the job done.

Article by •Lisa Daily•

Please check out these articles for additional information on how to see trouble lurking:

•5 Things That Tell Your Relationship is Over•
•Ending a Relationship When You're Living Together•
•Are there signs that your relationship is in trouble?•
•3 Signs that Your Man is Cheating•
•10 Dating Red Flags•