The next step? Make a mental note of that certain something that always makes you smile. Is it makeup? Shoes? Pepper spray? Whatever it is, go get it. Heck, while you're at it, get whatever! You know what you need...Bust out that retail roadmap and get goin' girl! Might I suggest some yummy shopping locations? If you'd rather not leave the house, the realm of online shopping is quite spectacular...Take a look at some of these websites and be inspired... Have fun with reckless abandon!

•Gucci•

•Dolce & Gabbana•

•Louis Vuitton•

•Guess•

•Baby Phat•

•Manolo Blahnik•

Life is too short not to treat yourself once in a while. It's time to look out for number one. Smile and remember that you are simply fabulous.

Article by Lisa Martinskis

Remember the Three "R's" - "Remember," "Rectify," and "Reprioritize."

Breaking up is just so much fun, isn't it? Yeah no. So there's a little list that might come in handy for you. The "Three R's."

Remember

Yes you had some good times, some bad times, and quite possibly some psychotic stuff went down. Whatever your 'fortunate' experience, remember it. Make a mental note of what you learned from the relationship. No need to pine over what's been lost - just respect the fact that you two didn't work out and move on with your life. There are so many more things to appreciate about life then harping on your past mistakes. Remember and move on.

Rectify

Chances are, you could have been the one in the wrong. If this is the case, try to make right of the situation if it is at all possible. Be big on forgiveness, patience, and respect. Understand that the relationship might not be salvageable, but build your integrity and then move on. You will feel better about the situation and chances are, the other person will too.

Reprioritize

Your relationship may have been dedicated to making someone else happy. Well now it's your turn. Do what you need to do to get "you" back. Stella got her groove and now you can too. Go back to school, get a better job, start exercising, get a massage. There are all sorts of things you can do to make sure you are the best you can be. Remember that you are important, and treat yourself as such.

Article by Lisa Martinskis

For an improved mood, exercising several times a week will not only help lift your mood after unhealthy realtionships but it will get you into a physical state that will be good for you. When you are in physically good shape you will have more energy because the brain releases chemicals called neurotransmitters and endorphins which act as natural antidepressants.

It's a good idea to be assessed by your internal medicine or family physician before you begin exercise to make certain that it is safe. Ask you friends who are into exercise who might be a good certified trainer. Put some money into a trainer to get you exercising right for several months and then your mood will shine.

After unhealthy relationships whether it be divorce or a breakup, you need to remember to take stock in yourself. You have to be good to yourself. If you want to love again it makes sense to take several months to love yourself by getting into a better physical state of health which will not only make your body healthier but also your mind and mood and help you to heal from your emotional wounds.

Love yourself and then you can love others even better! Its hard to love others if you dont love yourself first.

Article taken from •survivingbreakups.com•

Here - some tips and tricks to being "all that..." (As seen in "The Rules," by Ellen Fein, Sherrie Schneider)

Be a creature unlike any other

Being a creature unlike any other is really an attitude, a sense of confidence and radiance that permeates your being from head to toe. It's the way you smile (you light up the room), pause in between sentences (you don't babble on out of nervousness), listen (attentively), look (demurely, never stare), breathe (slowly), stand (straight) and walk (briskly, with your shoulders back). When a relationship doesn't work out, you brush away a tear so that it doesn't smudge your makeup and you move on!

Show up to parties, dances and social events even if you don't feel like it.

Realize that you may not meet Mr. Right naturally and that you therefore must take social action immediately even if you don't want to. Get a manicure and go out on another date or to that singles dance -- do something to increase your chances of meeting men.

It's a fantasy relationship unless a man asks you out.

Don't waste time on a fantasy relationship. You may have a good rapport with your doctor, lawyer or accountant, and you may find yourself wondering if he is interested in you romantically. How can you know for sure? If he's never asked you out, then he's not interested!

In an office romance, do not email him back every time he emails you unless it is office related.

On all nonbusiness e-mails, responding once for every four of his e-mails is a good rule of thumb. Remember, you never know who has access to your e-mail, so keep all romance off the screen and save it for Saturday nights.

If you are in a long-distance relationship, he must visit you at least three times before you visit him.

Remember, the first three visits are really nothing more than three dates... and on the first three dates we don't have sex with a man or have him stay at our place overnight.

When considering whether to place personal ads or online dating services, you should place them and let the man respond to you.

It goes back to the basic premise of The Rules: Man pursues woman. When writing your ad, remember that every man has a type, a voice or a look he likes. There has to be a spark for him that attracts him to you, something that makes him find you unexplainably special.

If he does not call, he is not that interested. Period.

We know this is hard to accept, but it's not that he hasn't called because he's busy, or because you didn't smile or talk enough (or did too much). It's not that he lost your phone number. The bottom line is, if he hasn't called, he's not that interested.

Close the deal - Rules women do not date for more than two years.

If you've followed The Rules, your man probably loves you and wants to marry you. Your problem is not if he marries you, but when! If it's been more than a year, see less of him and think about dating others. You've already spent more than a year waiting for him to propose; do you have another year to wait?

Buyer beware -- observe his behavior so you do not end up with Mr. Wrong

Love may be blind, but Rules girls are not stupid! How does he act in the relationship? Is he cheap on dates? Is he critical of you? Remember, The Rules are not about marrying the first man you are attracted to who calls you by Wednesday for Saturday night and buys you flowers. It's about marrying your own personal Mr. Right -- a man whom you love and whose character you admire and can live with.

Keep doing the Rules even when things are slow.

Take care of yourself, take a bubble bath and build up your soul with positive slogans like "I am a beautiful woman. I am enough." You must learn to accept that, as an adult, you can't always rely on a friend to do things with you. Even if you don't meet Mr. Right, going out -- whether it's a restaurant, lecture or party -- is a chance to meet new people and practice The Rules.

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